Then I have gone into coffeecup to submit the site map with Google.
What does this mean? What CoffeeCup program did you "go into" for uploading the files? If you uploaded them directly from the SIteMapper program, where it asks for the location to upload them to try putting /public_html/ in there and see what happens.
If you have access to an FTP program you can look at your account and see where they ended up. I'm guessing they ended up in your root directory:
nameofwebsite.com/
and not in your web site folder:
nameofwebsite.com/public_html/
NOTE: "www" and "public_html" are usually the same folder, though not always. I use "public_html" because that one is guaranteed to work.
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